Nowadays it’s cool to hate on love. As illustrated by the rise of nihilism and cynical attitudes, many of us are too jaded to ever see true love as a possibility in our lives. We might find the whole question of whether romantic love even exists or not completely irrelevant, since we might feel like it’s not really even worth spending much time or energy on, if any at all. To be completely honest, in today’s society I can’t even blame you for believing so, but just be aware that it doesn’t absolutely have to be the case. See, we can’t really imagine how good it might be to share our lives with another person until we actually experience it, yet when we do, we often come to find that we can no longer imagine life without that person by our side, and just the thought of losing them fills us with the worst type of dread. I’m not here to tell you that you need to be in a relationship or get married, but I do know that my own life has gotten infinitely better and just more meaningful overall since my wife and I got married in 2017. It hasn’t always been easy, but we’ve definitely had some great times together so far, because we’ve always respected each other’s differences and have always been completely open when it comes to communication. I think too many people mistake the idea of love with a magical feeling that ties two people together, a strong emotion that will last forever, and that should never, ever diminish, because that would be a sign of something wrong, that perhaps the love is gone. In reality though, we are all emotional creatures, and when something is new in our lives it is usually more exciting to us. As the years go by and life becomes more and more routine, it’s only natural that the intensity of the initial excitement might diminish, but it doesn’t mean that the love is no longer there. Because love is often so romanticized, we have a skewed idea of it, and we fail to realize that love is really nothing more than an agreement of sorts, a commitment between two people who care for each other and who have chosen to be there for each other, indefinitely. It’s not up to a feeling. There will be days when you will argue and you won’t feel like speaking to each other at all, there will be ups and downs, the intensity is bound to vary over time, depending on life’s current circumstances, but the love is still there as long as you both want it to be. To love is a commitment, and it’s a decision we make every day. It’s not up to a feeling. True love is being there for each other through it all, and although it’s hard at times, it’s a decision that must be constantly made, a commitment that must be constantly remembered. I guess all I’m saying is that, just like I’m sure you appreciate family and friends, a romantic relationship in which the love is real is also something to appreciate, so if that’s something you feel like you want in your life, don’t give up on it or let yourself become disheartened.
Please check out my song ‘Couldn’t Live Without My Baby.’ I appreciate you listening.
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